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Locating the Pearl

"In your light I learn how to love. In your beauty, how to make poems. You dance inside my chest where no one sees you, but sometimes I do, and that sight becomes this art." -Rumi

In David Richo's book, How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving...

Richo shares a piece called, Locating the Pearl, and I thought it was so lovely.

He says, to consider this commentary on the pearl as a metaphor for pain and its potential to be changed into something beautiful.

"In reaction to an irritation caused by a parasite or a grain of sand, the self-healing power of the oyster covers it with layers of aragonite. After several years, a pearl is created, composed of the same materials as the inner shell of the oyster. A pearl thus achieves its beauty and value from deep within its own protective shell. The unique luster of pearls depends on the refraction of light from their translucent layerings. The iridescence that some pearls emit is caused by the overlapping of many successive layers that disperse the light as it hits them. Unlike other gems, pears are not cut or polished. They can easily decay, and their softness makes them vulnerable to acids and heat. Pearls like to be worn against human skin, which is the best way to maintain their luster."

In reflecting on this beautiful metaphor, I thought about how I could be the pearl and how I could be the oyster in my relationships.

The pearl is allowed to feel, be in full expression, and be messy...and the oyster is the strong, protective, healing shell that allows this beautiful majestic gem to fully express itself and become the lustrous pearl that it's here to be.

This is the divine feminine and masculine energy at work...we are all a unique blend of both and our world needs more expression of the feminine energy to balance itself out.

This expression in essence is simply LOVE.

So much love to you,



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I am a master-in-training for being the space for myself to learn and grow and know the absolute truth of who I am. I am whole, healthy, abundant, love, and free…so are you. I forget this sometimes and that’s perfectly okay. I get to remember and forget and remember…for the rest of my life. So far I've played the role of an athlete, police officer, health coach, and nutritionist and mostly I desire to help others on this amazing journey called Life.


Healthful Tip

Environmental Working Group produces a list every year of the most contaminated produce. Of the 46 items included in their analysis, these are the 12 fruits and vegetables that are highest on the list:

  1. Strawberries

  2. Spinach

  3. Kale, Collards, Mustard Greens

  4. Grapes

  5. Peaches

  6. Pears

  7. Nectarines

  8. Apples

  9. Bell and hot peppers

  10. Cherries

  11. Blueberries

  12. Green beans

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