This topic seems to be a theme in my life lately, so I thought I would expand to see if it is playing a role in your life too.
Knowing whether you are attached or committed, really to anything, can be an answer to why or why you’re not feeling the way you want to.
We’re going to stick with the theme of health…
So, how are you connected to your health goals?
Are you attached or committed to them?
Let me explain what I mean…
Attachment means that you believe that accomplishing your goal or failing in the attempt will mean something about YOU.
Ask yourself this: What am I making the outcome of my goal mean about ME?
If you answered with something like this:
I will be a failure if I don’t lose the weight that I said I would.
If I eat the perfect diet and weigh the perfect weight, all my problems will go away.
When I weigh my ideal weight, I will feel perfectly beautiful.
Once I lose weight, I will feel good about myself, and then I will be able to ______.
…then, you’re attached to your goals.
It's not a problem if you answered this way, simply just notice and be CURIOUS about it.
Now, let’s talk about commitment.
Commitment to your goal means I will figure it out no matter what.
Commitment means I won’t quit before I get there, no matter how long it takes.
Commitment = I commit to myself.
Commitment is where your goal is ONLY there to help you become the kind of person you want to be.
The kind of person who doesn’t give up on themselves.
Commitment requires patience and acceptance of falling along the way.
Attachment requires you to beat yourself up every step of the way.
Commitment is gathering data.
Attachment is now or never.
Commitment = Devotion
Ask yourself this: How committed am I to optimize my health?
Notice what feelings and thoughts come up when you read this.
Are they:
Anxious feelings, shame, doubt, tightness in your chest or throat, pain in your stomach, not good enough, inadequacy, fear…
I don’t know if I could ever be that healthy.
I've failed at every other diet, so I don't believe this can happen now.
It would be way too much work to even start this journey.
I know if I take easy steps that are right for me, I can optimize my health.
I know this journey could be hard at times, but what hasn’t been hard at times when I first started?
Which of these felt heavy to read and which ones felt light?
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XO Deana
A once-trained Division I athlete, and police officer, now turned trained certified nutritionist, health/life coach, and personal trainer. I am a master-in-training for being the space for myself to learn and grow and know the absolute truth of who I am. I am whole, healthy, abundant, love, and free…so are you. I forget this sometimes and that’s perfectly okay. I get to remember and forget and remember…for the rest of my life.
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If you put your hunger and fullness on a scale of 1-10...start thinking about what you want to eat at a 2-3, and stop eating when you're at a 7-8.